Muslim Husband – Leader of The House
In the recent past, there have been many researches on productivity and efficiency of people, mostly in the workplace, like being proactive, seeking cooperation with others, prioritizing matters, listening carefully, careful planning etc. All of these are good things to keep in mind for one`s success in all walks of life.
Talking about accomplishment in one`s affairs, marriage is a very important concern in a Muslim`s life. It is a great blessing of Allah SWT, which is a relationship of love, understanding and cooperation. But nowadays, many families are facing problems, which could be result of a husband or a wife. As, former is the leader of the house, so it demands greater sense of responsibility from him.
There are certain things which one can adopt in its daily routine to become a highly effective Muslim husband:
Observing Stability Between Work And Religion
Work-life balance has become the hottest issue in today`s organizations. Employees are becoming more and more barren in their occupation because they face serious problems maintaining equilibrium between their private and vocational issues. If they incline towards one side more than what is required, they move towards failure in either issue. So, to avoid this discrepancy, companies have devised systems whereby they ensure that their workers are highly motivated and remain stress free in their work.
Likewise, the head of the Muslim family also has to go through such problems; some have to go on long business tours, while others are stuck in the traumas of their office job deadlines. Such matters result in serious predicaments in one`s marital life. One cannot focus on the needs of its wife and children as it should, mainly because of lack of time to look after them. For perfect remedy of this quandary, one needs to have a proper balance between its work and religion first. Islam is a complete code of life and it contains many religious practices, which in turn helps in leading productive life, like daily prayers teach how to manage one`s time, and Zakah (charity) educates lessening desire for materialistic possessions. Through time management, one could learn how to make it up to one`s family appropriately. And by having lesser wish for earning excessively, one could think about its relations more and fulfill their rights rightfully. So, one should practice its religious obligations as much as it can so that it can benefit from their effectual repercussions.
Keeping Hale And Hearty Through Exercise
Many of the family issues are a result of poor health of the leader of the house. A husband is the heart and brain of the household, who should remain fully efficient so that other affiliates of the home could be happy and satisfied, just like body functions of a man depends on the effective working of one`s soul and mind.
Health problems could easily be solved through regular exercise in the morning and in evening. It does not necessarily means to run for some time in the park. One could also take its wife and children to a nearby recreational area to freshen the mind and body from daily life hassles. This practice also helps in keeping away from carrying diseases like overweight, heart and tissue problems. As, health is wealth, and for any Muslim man, its family should be the utmost priority, so one should always try to remain at the best of its physical condition in order to give its best to family members.
Reading The Holy Quran
The Sacred Scripture of Quran contains all the necessary information for living a successful life, as it not only highlights the great importance of religious duties but also gives much insight about many social and family issues of privileges and duties. A Muslim husband has to set the perfect leading example in one`s home, so by reading and understanding Holy Quran, his children could learn from him and gain inspiration to learn Quran themselves. Moreover, he can also teach his wife about her responsibilities, and learn about his own family obligations to work effectively for their fulfillment.
Maintaining A Good Sense Of Dressing
The modern and Islamic concept of nice clothing does not go along hand in hand. The former is more inclined towards materialism and demands expensive dressing, but the latter just requires a Muslim to remain in complete state of cleanliness with respect to its body and garments no matter how much the dress is simple.
A Muslim husband also needs to act upon the very Sunnah of the Holy Prophet (PBUH), and keep wearing neat and tidy clothes, so that he can act as the perfect example for his kids and spouse in sanitation.
Helping In The House Work
There is a great misconception in today`s society that the female has to look after all the in-family affairs from cooking meals till taking care of kids. That is not the correct gist of Islamic ideologies, nor is the way of the Prophet Muhammad`s (PBUH) life, Who not only used to do His private tasks Himself, but also was observed greatly involved in carrying out daily household work.
Aisha (Ra) once said about Muhammad (PBUH):
“Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) used to patch his sandals, sew his garment and conduct himself at home as anyone of you does in his house. He was a human being, searching his garment for lice, milking his sheep, and doing his own chores.” (Tirmidhi)
How many men in this day and age mend their worn out dresses and shoes themselves and share the burden of their wives in house job. There is a great parable in the life of the Holy Prophet (PBUH) for each and every one of us, Who did all the apparently looking pity things Himself and was not burdening them over others` shoulders. So, it’s clear that a Muslim husband should not feel shame in taking part in internal work of family like helping out wife in making meals, and other stuff like that so that his wife could feel comforted and cared.
So, to conclude, we can say that nobody can be ever perfect, and things are not always as pleasant in relations as one wants them to be. But, to be closer to an ideal Muslim husband, one should at least take care of its basic responsibilities like looking after his own affairs and other family members, gaining and spreading the necessary Islamic insight, actively taking part in family matters, and above all, one should act as a role model for others in every respect.